Day: April 17, 2024

  • Being a Healthy Caretaker-Part Two

    Being a Healthy Caretaker-Part Two

    Last week, I shared about some of the physical effects that over two years of caregiving has had on my body (hypertension, high cholesterol, and weight gain), and what did and didn’t work for me during this high-stress, adrenaline-fueled period in my life.  I hope that by sharing these experiences with you that you can either be inspired to start off your caretaking journey on a healthy foot, or to make positive changes in your journey if you’ve been at this for a while now.  Sometimes the middle can seem like the hardest part, but that’s when these healthy decisions can count the most.

    This week, I’d like to talk about the even tougher to tackle the topic of…nutrition. You might recall the statistic that“63% of caregivers report having poor[er] eating habits than non-caregivers.”  (Source: Caregiver Action Network)

    A healthy diet is the icing on the cake, or perhaps the fat-free yogurt on the fruit. I’m a straight-up “stress eater.” As a southern gal, food was always something that was reliably good. It was, indeed, my friend. Or so I thought until my LDL (low-density lipoprotein, the bad cholesterol) count told me differently.

    Eating smart is a classic case of the domino effect. If you eat well, you’ll feel better, and you’ll be able to do more. If you eat poorly, you’ll run out of fuel fast. More often than not, I chose the latter. I encourage you to try and keep healthy snacks in the house if that’s where you spend most of your time. Some of us are frequent drivers to and from appointments or the hospital; you might find it helpful to treat your car like a mini-pantry full of snacks. You’ll probably be on the go a lot, so portable things like granola bars, fruit, and yogurt are good to have on hand. Think low-fat, low-calorie, and high-protein. A bottle of water is much kinder than the “empty calories” of a soda or syrupy sweet tea.

    Long periods of high stress and little rest can send your body in to overdrive. There are many essential vitamins and minerals that we should be stocking up on every day through a balanced diet of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. This isn’t always easy to do, however, so I learned to invest in some vitamin supplements to try and keep my energy and resistance up. Find a way to get your body the goods it needs!

    I know I know, I know that it’s easy to say all of this in hindsight. If you are in the midst of taking care of someone, you are going to be exhausted. Rest is certainly important, but it will not replace the benefits of maintaining a healthy diet and exercise routine. Always check with your doctor before beginning any sort of new diet or physical activity, and consider your personal health needs. Two and a half months into getting back on track, I can’t tell you how much I wish I would’ve done this all along.

    “When dieting, remember: What’s on the table eventually becomes what’s on the chair.” –Barbara Johnson, Daily Splashes of Joy

    (originally published on ShannonMiller.com)

  • It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

    It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

    Sometimes, when it feels like you can’t catch a breath and your heart feels parched and weary, God will send someone to breathe life back into your soul with their words. I deeply value those moments when God places someone in my path with just the right message.

    I shared these words with an old friend from high school who reached out to me after many years. She told me that every time she passed by the Mayo Clinic, she prayed for me and my family, and that she continues to pray to this very day. Her words melted my heart, leaving me both grateful and blessed.

    As we caught up, my friend mentioned something that really stuck with me. She said she always saw me as someone who had it all together. Hearing this made my heart sink because I knew the truth—I was far from it. If only people saw the difficult days as frequently as they occurred…would I still be a beacon of Christ’s light? Would people still accept and love the real me, amidst all the turmoil inside? I admit, there are days I wear a mask of denial, thinking it’s better than exposing the struggles I face. Can anyone relate?

    Over the years, I’ve realized you never truly know what someone else is going through. Some people are open about their challenges, while others prefer to keep their pain out of sight. I often find myself walking this fine line, but when I do share my vulnerabilities with someone I trust, I am usually met with encouragement and love. While some struggles are deeply personal, sharing them can significantly lighten the load.

    “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

    It’s surprising how letting down your guard allows others to do the same, peeling back layers and revealing a softer side to each other. This can lead to deeper connections and perhaps even lifelong friendships. It’s a strange but beautiful truth how shared suffering can forge strong bonds between people.

    “By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend, you can face the worst. Can you find a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12 (MSG)

    So, would I still be a shining light for Christ? Absolutely, and perhaps even more so. I hope others will see how God is working in my life, helping me mend and grow stronger through the trials. I pray that His light shines through me more brightly than ever, even on days when I struggle to see it myself.

    And will people still love me, despite the chaos within? They should. While it’s true that some may drift away as you heal, and that’s okay—sometimes God removes them for our betterment. But there will always be those who love you unconditionally, seeing you through compassionate eyes.

    “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.” – Galatians 6:2

    Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ,” as stated in Galatians 6:2, is a powerful directive from scripture that encourages us to engage deeply in the art of compassion and mutual support. This verse calls us not merely to observe each other’s struggles, but to actively participate in alleviating the weight that our friends, family, and even strangers might be carrying. It is a call to embody love by stepping into the trenches with those who are suffering.

    Remember, you are a precious gem in the eyes of your Heavenly Father. What you might see as a mess, others may view as a message of hope and resilience.