The holiday season is often painted as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. For many, it’s a time filled with laughter, shared meals, and cherished traditions. But for those navigating the difficult path of grief, the holidays can feel profoundly different—a stark reminder of the absence of loved ones, an empty seat at the table, and moments once shared that now echo in silence.
Grief during the holidays is complex. It mingles with the season’s cheer, creating a bittersweet mix of memories and longing. The world seems to move at a different pace, full of light and merriment, while those who are grieving may feel isolated in their sorrow, struggling to find their place amidst the celebration. And yet, it’s okay to feel this way. It’s okay to hold space for both the love that once was and the ache that remains.
One of the most important things to remember is that grief doesn’t come with a timeline. The expectation to “move on” or “get through” can be heavy, especially during this season. But grief is not linear—it’s a journey marked by waves that can be as gentle as a soft memory or as overwhelming as a tidal surge. During the holidays, those waves can rise higher and feel more intense.
To those who are grieving this season, know that it’s okay to honor your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel joy and sadness, to embrace laughter and tears. Allow traditions to change or be set aside if they feel too painful, and know that creating new rituals in honor of your loved one can be a beautiful way to remember them—whether it’s lighting a special candle, sharing stories, or holding space for quiet reflection.
In these moments, leaning into your faith can be a source of profound comfort. Allow your heart to rest in the promise that you are embraced by God’s love that understands grief and sorrow. Prayer, scripture, and quiet moments of spiritual reflection can offer a steadying presence and remind you that God walks with you in every tear and every sigh. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Hold on to the truth that even in your grief, you are seen, loved, and supported by an unfailing source of hope.
Lean into the support of those who understand. Reach out to friends, family or a Certified Grief Coach who can walk beside you without judgment, offering a listening ear or a comforting presence. Remember, you are not alone. There are countless others who know what it is to grieve during the holidays, and in that shared experience, there is an unspoken bond.
And for those who support someone grieving, patience and compassion go a long way. Simple acts of kindness—a heartfelt note, an offer to share a cup of coffee, or just the acknowledgment of the person they are missing—can provide warmth and comfort in moments that feel cold and empty.
The holidays, with all their light and warmth, can feel dimmed by grief. But even in that dimness, love persists. The love for those we have lost, and the love they had for us, remain steadfast, woven into the fabric of our hearts. This season, may that love be your guiding light, helping you find moments of peace, however small, and reminding you that it’s okay to grieve and remember.
